Socialise The Right Way

Hi I'm Ruth


I have friends who are sociopaths, and as I realize that, I really want to say something about it so that people can avoid being sociopaths.


So today, I'm going to share my own view of how to socialise the right way. It's my view, I repeat, therefore you do not need to criticize, but only read and hopefully you can gain something from it.


When one person is really good enough, people's views, the people around that person, will eventually change to accept him.

So do not think that you're a weirdo in their eyes and forever will be, because you will not.


Also, stop judging yourself and others. We do not, and will not have the rights to judge others even after we judge ourselves.


When you have random enemies, it's common and you can say that it's not your fault, it's their brain system's problems that find you weird, but if nearly everyone around you finds you weird you just have to rethink what's actually wrong with yourself and improve.


Not change. Just improvise and eventually it will get better.


Sometimes friends in real life can teach you more than an internet ones can, and friends in real life see you as you really are (unless you act in front of them), so internet friends cannot really judge you accordingly.


You might not be a sociopath here in the internet, but maybe over there in real life, you are.


Or maybe over there you aren't a sociopath either, but you just treat the bad people equally.


However, life shouldn't be like that. If people are bad to us, as Jesus once said, if someone slaps your left cheek, you let them slap the right cheek too. And if someone asks you to walk a mile, walk two miles. Show them that you're good to them even if they treat you badly.


Eye for eye and tooth for tooth doesn't work. It won't bring peace but hate, yes, and war.

So even if they are bad towards you, treat them nicely. You might say that it would seem so fake that you're treating them nicely even when you hate them, but in reality, when you treat them nicely, you are trying to diffuse the hate into no more hate.


Kill them with kindness, as Selena Gomez says. But no, you won't kill them with kindness. They might heal and be a better person because of your kindness. And wouldn't that be better? In a way, you killed their bad former selves with kindness. I guess that was what she meant by killing people with kindness.


So, try to just improvise by smiling at everyone, talking to everyone, not showing a grumpy face, helping others no matter you think they're using you or not, and be a happy person.


You will have more friends like that. True friends or not, it doesn't matter, because when you have a lot of friends, one or two will always show up to be a true friend. If you only have a few, maybe one day it will turn out that you have no true friends.


Plus, when you help people, you certainly feel happy. Even if they're using you, you actually completed their work and accomplished something amazing that they can't even do, or are lazy to do. Feel good about that and forget that they're using you.


I don't say this based on nothing because I do this sometimes. And in school, I'm really happy.


The fake people, when they smile, you think to yourself, "Damn, bad people."


But what if you just think that their smiles are sincere? That'll make your day better.


I'm not asking you to lower down your defences, but asking you to think more positively, so that you'll be a happy person, and being happy, attracts people. That's how you avoid being a sociopath.


Even people like me, I don't know jokes, but helping every single person I can, it makes me feel happy, and it also makes me well known among people.


People will be like, "Oh, this person can help you, and it doesn't matter whether you're close to him or not, for he'll always try his best."


And when you know how to joke, it's better. You help them, and you talk to them, serving jokes, keeping the awkward mood happy and light, and then, eventually, you will have friends.

Don't avoid anyone. Sometimes, even weird people can serve to be the best of friends. Even people you think are bad from first sight. Because many people believe in what goes around comes around, and when you help them, they'll try to find a way to help you back, or they won't give you trouble, at least, or else their conscience wouldn't sit still.


In this case, you learn, a friend in need is a friend indeed.


People are always asking for help, and the least you can do is listen. So listen.


Be selfless. Be a pacifier.


I hope this helps. Thank you for reading this. Have a nice day.